Welcome to YOU!

  

   I have come to really think that often times, the emotional troubles that plague us are because we forget who we really are, our true selves.  We accept negative judgements of ourselves way too easily.  We see limitations to what we can accomplish, what we can have, and who we can be, and we take this as truth.  Our negative beliefs and limitations become our reality, and it seems as if these things are real, and permanent.  Indeed, we fall asleep to our true selves.  

     I have been trying a new EFT (tapping) version called Positive EFT, which is part of a version called Energy EFT, for a couple of weeks.  The results in such a short amount of time have been nothing short of miraculous, and this is a term I dont use lightly.  The main result I have experienced is a deepened understanding and acceptance of the Truth, that we create our experience, that the True Self is in the Divine Image, , and has no limits other than those self-imposed.  We can experience ANYTHING we want, whenever we want.  This knowing has been very liberating, and the joy is now almost constant.  


     We often force ourselves to forget who we are, for a variety of reasons, (to fit in, to look away from pain, etc).  The Truth is, we don't have to be afraid to let the world see who we are.  When the knowing happens, we realizes there is nothing to be defensive about, nothing to fear. We then come to know ourselves, and what a beautiful person that is!  

 I am often asked why I do what I do.  So here is my "why"....

     I HATED school.  Oh, K-2 were kind of ok, but after that, it was all downhill.  Middle school was awful, High school was even worse.  Math was torture. The system did a great job on slamming my self-image into the ground.  Even in college, I found it tedious at best.  I was a "C" student in high school, barely.  Yet, when I got to college for my A.A.S. degree, I was on the Dean's list my first semester.  I always kept in the back of my mind the question.."Why was I able to do that in college, and not in high school? After all, it's the same brain!"  More on that in a minute.

     Fast forward....I'm teaching PE in a Catholic school in Brooklyn, NY, and LOVING IT!  The energy from the kids, it was awesome. The sense of fulfillment was amazing!  I did that for 4 years before I moved into sales work for the next 12 years.  Eventually, I came back to it, in a public school setting, and that's when it really hit me.

     My memories of how traumatic school was for me were triggered by seeing it in student after student.  I began by substituting with ESE (Exceptional Student Education) classes. These were special diploma students in a high school, the group noone really wanted to deal with. I found I had an almost instant rapport with them.  I have stayed in this niche in the high school setting ever since.

     What really hit me was how these student suffered so much in the system.  Angry and over the whole school thing.  It touched me, motivated me to pour out my heart for them, to learn ways to help them as much as I could.

     My biggest challenge, and it still is, is to keep my balance, when I see the system trying to be more important than the child.  Yet, day after day, I fight for them. Both in the system, and in my private coaching practice, I fight for them.  I delight in the possibilities of changing the world, one student at a time.

     My second niche was a natural offshoot of the academic one, self-image work.  It came from the repeated work I had to do with these students because of the harm the system and their labels did to their self-esteem.  I then extrapolated that to work with adults, and again, using my own "suffering" how much I was was held back in life due to my own low self-image.  I couldn't let that happen to others if I had the tools and skill to prevent it.  So I launched into it with the same passion I has with the kids.  Accepting second best is so unnecessary.  Being sad or anxious all the time isn't what we are created for.

     My purpose is to change the world, to contribute to it wonderful becoming. My purpose is to save as many students as I can from the pain of school.  There shouldn't be any, nor does it have to stay that way for students of ALL ages who are experiencing it.  There are easier ways to learn. There is an amazing person that is YOU.  There is no higher purpose to suffering with a low self-image. Nothing meritorious about it.  Every day, I rise with joy and anticipation of who I will help that day.  To that, gratitude is always added.  Gratitude that I was able to find my way out.  Gratitude that I learned tools so effective, I wish I knew them when I was a kid.

     I know this may seem a bit like rambling, but it is my hope it gives a glimpse into my heart, and into my "why".

Why the ups and downs?

You know the story. You are moving toward a goal, and all of a sudden, it all bottoms out.  What's more, this pattern repeats over and over, in many areas of your life.  Why?  The answer may be clearer than you think.

What do you think of yourself? Really, no masks.  Do you think you are worthy of the goal you are seeking, whether financial, or a relationship, etc.?  Well, if not, maybe your thermostat is set too low.

Thermostat? Yes, your self-image.  It dictates how high you can fly, how much good you will really accept. More importantly, it will dictate how much you will self-sabotage yourself when things are going well.  The truth is, it doesn't have to be this way.  You can clear the thoughts and feeling that have created a low self-image and create a new one.  You can, really.  Life is not supposed to be painful.  I know this might fly in the face of what some religious paths may teach, and I'm not going to debate the theology of those here. I will say, however, and I stand solidly on this, that that view is false, a deception.  You have a right, a Divine right, to be happy. You do.  Just accepting that fact alone will start you on your way.

Set the intention that you want to finally stop the roller coaster, that you want what you want and deserve to have it.  Then, the clearing needs to start. That is a topic for another post.  

Effects on Self Image

I came across this article this morning, and found it very insightful...

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424127887323623304579055302147114522.html